Holy crap. Lists upon lists upon lists. I’m not to the point of making lists of my lists yet, but I’m very close. I’m just rewriting them at this point.
And I have to remember to take with us to the wedding everything we want to take on the honeymoon, as well, since the sisters are spiriting us away to a hotel room that night after the party, and then we leave in the morning for Vancouver!
I am so excited. I am also ready for the party. Then I’m ready to leave. You know? I enjoy planning, but even with a tiny little cheap wedding, this is extreme planning, yo. We want to have a housewarming at some point, but that would be planning, and I just can’t bear it.
I think we need massages. Yup. I may need to make some phone calls today. Not like we have ANY money to spare, but can’t we justify this? We NEED it. I’m feeling mostly good, and mostly together, and mostly happy, and then something little will happen, and I’ll snap — GRRROWWWWWL! Kerthunk. Humph. Stomp, stomp, stomp. Of course, it’s Lala I snap on most — or if it’s not snapping, then it’s moods. Growly moods, for bad reasons like tripping over the dog, or not having chocolate in the house. Stooopid.
But I’ve learned this, and it’s a good lesson: On my days off, for the last three months, I’ve been busy from morning until night. From 7am until 9pm, I Do Stuff, constantly and without ceasing (mothers all around the country are saying SHUT UP! I’VE DONE THAT FOR YEARS!). First it was packing, then moving, then unpacking, then wedding planning.
That’s not complaining, that’s an observation that I am able to be productive when I need to be. Which means this: When we come home from the honeymoon, I will spend that time writing. Or at least a lot of it. If I can spend all day running errands and doing things that I don’t particularly like to do, then I can spend more hours than I am now writing, which I LOVE to do.
So that’s the plan.
Oh, my god. I’m still planning. Erg.
At the moment when you and Lala look into each others eyes when you get married, all this list making and planning will have been worth it and soon forgotten. Really 🙂
Best Wishes to the both of you, I’m so very happy for you about the marriage, house, just everything!!
Dude, I am right there with you. With the packing and the moving and the dealing with the cable people and the packing and the packing and the packing and you know, thank GAWD I’m not getting married right now.
Bu oh my, I am so FREAKING happy for you.
Massages are great – Terry and I each had one the day before our wedding, and it was the best thing we could have done. Ultimatewedding.com has some good checklists should you need any more to add to your list collection. But the most important thing is to relax, and really make sure you take in each moment of the day. Get friends to remind you to stop, and pause, and look around and see the great party that’s all for you and Lala!
Good for you! I’m happy to hear that you’ll be returning to writing and I hope we, your eager reading audience, will be the beneficiaries of your efforts!
Best wishes on your party/wedding/honeymoon!!!
Ay, Chica. Breathing is a much underrated pasttime, ya know? so please remember to B-R-E-A-T-H-E…yes? Ok. now you can tell me to fuck off and I’ll know JUST what you mean….hehe. Mille baci, bambina…
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Hiya, we got married in Oct ’04 and amid all the stress of the families and last minute lists, I took my fiance out to breakfast the morning before the big day. Just the two of us, unshowered, early in the morning at a dive of a restaurant (but they have the BEST biscuits and gravy!) and its one of my very favorite wedding memories. Why? I reconnected with my honey, which I really needed at the time.
My advice is to do something like that. Get side by side massages, go out for coffee or a meal. Reconnect and remember why you are making all the lists. :)K
You’ll wonder what to do with all your free time when you get back!
Hang-in, girl! It will all be OK. You already got the good attitude, knowing that it all just means you can be productive when you have to. You are going through many changes, but there is light at the end of the tunnel of busyness. It starts the moment you get to the honeymoon suite. Now go get some chocolate!!
Please don’t explode before the wedding. That would be most unfortunate.
Remember that no matter what else happens (or doesn’t happen), at the end of the day you will be married to the woman you love. And that kicks all ass.
Oh darlin, you can call and snap at me, it’s part of my job! 🙂
If there’s any boring phoning around to do in Vancouver, let me know. I’d be happy to help.
I’m certainly not going to tell you to stop whining about the non-stop. I will, however, tell you that I completely understand, sometimes I want to poke my eyes out with double points just to get a break in the emergency room.
The wedding will be wonderful!
Take care, keep breathing!
Colleen
I can relate at the moment, what with the phone calls to utilities and the packing and thinking about packing.
But our end results will be far different. You will be married to your Lala, and I’ll have a little place all on my own.
Best of luck with the remaining few days of planning and list making, it’ll totally be worth it.
I can’t wait to hear all about the big day 🙂
As for the housewarming; invite friends over with the request that instead of gifties they bring a bottle and an appetizer. Simple!